On Social Media at Work, Even Friends Can Be Enemies


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I do not get along with one of my colleagues. We do not talk unless it’s work-related. I have tried to be friendly, but after a few years of working with him, the relationship is nonexistent.

Recently, I see that he is a frequent viewer of my social media posts. However, he does not follow me, which means he takes the time out of his day to search for my account. This bothers me because if he can’t at least say hi, then why take an interest in my personal life? I do not want to make my account private simply because of him, as I’ve found a lot of value in keeping it public.

This morning, we passed each other in the hallway again, without saying a word, and his gaze turned away from me even though…



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